Wednesday night, my wife and I were craving some ice cream, so I went to the store to buy Haagen Daz Vanilla for her because that is what she wanted. I got Ben & Jerry’s Cookies & Cream Cheesecake Core, which contains half cookies & cream and half chocolate ice cream with cheesecake flavor in the middle. We were able to enjoy our ice cream in peace as Andrew was sleeping. Poor boy, doesn’t know the joy of ice cream yet.
Thursday night, I get home after our young adults Bible study and my wife tells me that she really wants some chocolate ice cream (AKA half my ice cream)! I told her to just enjoy her vanilla Haagen Daz, and that she should have chosen chocolate instead of vanilla yesterday. After several minutes of dialogue, I reluctantly went to the freezer and took out my Ben & Jerry’s ice cream along with two spoons. We sat there eating MY ice cream together. I was holding onto it for dear life. I was literally hugging it. She had to reach over my arms for every bite. It was so painful watching her take spoonful after spoonful of MY ice cream, while hers was nicely tucked away in the freezer.
When I had first bought the ice cream, I was thinking how nice it was going to be to savor every bite and just really fully enjoy it all to myself. She had her vanilla, so surely, she wouldn’t bother to eat any of mine. I think it was the shock at how wrong my thinking was, that made it so hard for me to share my ice cream with her. To be fair, my wife is not some evil ice cream stealer. She is a very kind and sweet person. We are both just very passionate when it comes to ice cream.
About half way through, I was able to let go of my death grip and actually place the ice cream in the middle of us. We were able to finish the rest of it in peace. I realized that it was only ice cream. I could always buy more. As much as we both love ice cream, there is no need to be so serious about it.
I think love has a way of putting things in perspective. Whatever your “ice cream” might be, we realize that it’s not greater than the ones you love. You wouldn’t want your “ice cream” to come between you and the people you love. To take it one step further, you wouldn’t want your “ice cream” to come between you and God. Having been in a relationship with God for some time now, there are many things that I had to let go because it was interfering with our relationship.
Looking back at each of them, I do not view them as a loss at all. I do not regret giving them up for God. I have definitely gained more than what I gave up for my relationship with Him. Moving forward, I know that there will be more things that I will have to let go, and I will gladly do so because my relationship with God is far greater than whatever that might be.
Do we have “ice cream” that is coming between you and your loved ones? You and God? I hope that we can realize that in the end, those things are not greater than the relationships that we have. As people of God, we should be putting way more value in people and relationships rather than things. That is the example we see from Jesus. He had love for God the Father and the lost. He never had a love for things. Everything He did was for God and for people. Let’s take the time to invest in relationships rather than things.
From Pastor Eugene’s Heart
February 28, 2016