I usually try to take care of family duties on Mondays. Well, I should say that’s what is expected of me because I am not home much on the weekends due to ministry stuff.  At times, my wife writes “TO-DO” lists so that I don’t become lazy and waste the whole day. Although I complain that she expects too much from me, I do appreciate her so much for being a “super mom” and that she constantly challenges me to become a better husband and father. God has indeed blessed me beyond measures with a perfect partner to share my life with. I am forever grateful for her… except for the days when we get into fights and end up not talking for a couple days or so. Yes, as a pastor, I should know better not to let the sun go down while we are still angry at each other (Eph 4:26). But it doesn’t always happen that way.    
As a result of a recent conflict with my wife, I had a bad incident this past Monday morning. She didn’t notify me of our minivan being very low on fuel so the car just died on me right after I buckled the kids into their car seats to take them to school. After spending so much time and effort in the freezing weather to pump in gas, my hands were all frozen and I spilled gas all over my hands. So I was very annoyed at myself for not properly resolving conflicts with my wife because my wife would have warned me of the low fuel light on our “normal” days. She probably forgot to mention it because we didn’t talk to each other for the entire weekend. To add to my frustration, even Reina was annoyed at me that she was late to her school. And why did it happen on the day that my parents and my sister went out early in the morning for a hospital visit? Everything just didn’t go right for me on that morning all because I failed to deal with unresolved conflicts with my wife.
How do you resolve conflicts? There is an article that I came across that presents 5 different ways people resolve conflicts. Find out which one you can identify with and learn the “carefronting” way to preserve relationships. (Refer to the source for more detailed explanation)
 
The Win-Lose Strategy: Seeing everything as right or wrong. No “gray” whatsoever.
Avoidance: May end up with weal and superficial relationship. Avoiding conflict at all costs in often a sign of weakness and insecurity.
Giving In: Yielding to others to maintain peace. People pleasers
Compromise: Sometimes both parties may give up something important to them and high risk of ending up unsatisfied and unhappy.
Carefronting: The two parties must agree to come together, commit to preserve the relationship, creatively find a solution that satisfies both sides, utilize reason over emotion, separate the person from the issue, and strive for a solution that will bring peace. 
Source: <http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/trevinwax/2013/08/13/5-western-styles-of-managing-conflict/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=5-western-styles-of-managing-conflict&repeat=w3tc>

From Pastor Brian’s Heart
February 2, 2014

Today we wrap up the study of the book of Jonah, which we’ve been going through for the past four Sundays.  I do not know about you, but I enjoyed preaching from it immensely,  a delightful departure from the study of the two Pauline Epistles (Colossians and Philippians) that we’ve previously spent close to six months on.   While preparing my sermon, I came across the following funny story, which many of you may already have heard:

A lady on a plane was reading her Bible. The man sitting next to her gave a little chuckle and asked, "You don't really believe all that stuff in there, do you?"
"Of course I do. It is the Bible," the lady replied.
"Well, what about that guy that was swallowed by that big fish?" he asked.
"Oh, Jonah... Yes, I believe that, too. It is in the Bible," she replied.
"Well, how do you suppose he survived all that time inside the fish?" he asked.
"Well, I don't really know. I guess when I get to heaven, I will ask Jonah," said the lady.
"What if he isn't in heaven?" the man asked sarcastically.
"Then YOU can ask him." replied the lady! 

On a more serious note, the story of Jonah is one of the most ridiculed Bible accounts by people who consider themselves intellectual and sophisticated.  Some ‘Christian liberals’ have attempted to ‘solve’ the problem by saying that  it is not to be taken as actual history, but only as a parable to convey a hidden meaning.  I disagree with this stand for the following reasons:
While the authors of the Bible did use parables, whenever they did, they always said so or made it evident in the context, which is not the case with the book of Jonah.  In addition, Jonah was an actual prophet who is also mentioned in 2 Kings 14:25, and the book of Nahum also records God’s prophecy against the wickedness of the people of Nineveh. 
More importantly, Jesus Christ himself accepted the account as true:
[Jesus] answered, “A wicked and adulterous generation asks for a sign! But none will be given it except the sign of the Prophet Jonah. For as Jonah was three days and three nights in the belly of a huge fish, so the Son of Man will be three days and three nights in the heart of the earth.” (Matt. 12:39-40)
In fact Jesus compared Jonah’s experience to His own impending death and resurrection, pointing out the factual and miraculous nature of both!   Thus, to deny the historicity of Jonah’s story is to charge Jesus Christ to be either deceptive (using Jonah as an example, knowing he was only a fictional character) or ignorant (not knowing Jonah was a fictional character), either of which is denying Jesus’ deity.  And the notion that we can accept the miracle of the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ without believing the miraculous account of Jonah is absurd.  Either we believe the Bible to be 100% true and inerrant or we don’t believe the Bible at all, for “all Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness…” (2 Tim. 3:16) 
Then how do we explain the story of Jonah?  There is little question that it was a miracle performed by God, just like the other miracles in the Bible and many miracles that still happen around the world today.  We may be ridiculed for believing the Bible in its entirety, but once we confess our faith in the resurrected Christ, we should expect it to come with the territory. Since that faith saves us from going to hell, we should be willing to be ridiculed for it as well!

From Pastor Sara’s Heart
January 26, 2014